If you don’t have standards, you have nothing to measure yourself against.

Don’t fall into the common trap of comparing yourself to other people, that’s impossible as they keep moving.

Instead. Define what is the minimum you will accept for yourself and strive to exceed that.

It doesn’t matter where you get them from, spend time reflecting on each major domain: mental, physical, emotional (internal), relationships, work (external). These should reflect your internal values.

Then stick to them and seek help from those you respect at holding you accountable.

You may note that these are not goals, these are facts.

For example, if you feel that you should be able to perform at a specific standard physically, stick to it, or train until you can. If you believe that relationships are important, work at them. If you think certain internal or external behaviours are incongruent with other standards, change.

If you find you need professional help, seek it, with the goal of improving. Whether that is medical, psychological or career, choose your expert and invest in yourself.